Peverts!

Have you come across relatives and friends jealous of you like crazy, stinking jealously, unabashed display of it and a uncomfortable wave it generates. I have a couple of times in life. At different stages in life.

Earlier my response used to be to tone down my display and make the other person comfortable. But that yet left me uncomfortable and upset in my dealings.

Now my response would be to cut that person out of my communication circle. Because precisely that is healthy. Keep away from people who unnerve you , not because you cannot make them comfortable but because they will at every given opportunity make you uncomfortable. Cut away anyone , who in the disguise of a relation, blackmails you, cheats you, threatens your believes, is not happy to see you happy or is plain jealous , most of the times without a cause.

Trivial as it may sound, i remember when me and my sister got enrolled into engineering colleges, how an old time friend of my parents stopped correspondence with us because he had been desperately trying to get his kids into a similar college.

Another time, how a relative 30 years elder to me would refuse to correspond to my mails of a general 'How are you variety', because he had some pre convoluted views he could not deal with and which he never cared to discuss.

What fun is it to feed egos that continue to hurt you. I guess strength of character is in taking the first step to resolve issues, show people matter and do it with a very open heart. Give it multiple attempts. But when it starts to prick you as illogical and pervert, stop. Just cut it out because it is not worth pursuing if it hurts your ego after a while.

Many will try and pull you down in life. Not because you deserve it or have done anything to get the wrath. But sometimes because they haven't been able to deal with something and wish to take it out on you.

Logic it. I say ... ego apart... emotions first, people first. Yet infliction to your sanity, self esteem, should never be tolerated. NEVER.